Quote:
Originally Posted by SarahSweden
No, I think youīre right my sexual issues have to do with lack of self esteem, itīs one of the reasons. And itīs also true I fear getting hurt and I do also in friendships.
The thing thatīs a bit harder to understand is that I look upon sex as something humiliating. As Iīm a bit over 30 years of age I feel Iīve lost a lot of years I could have been able to practise and to come close to another person and I also feel ashamed that I havenīt been able to do so.
|
Listen, there is absolutely no shame in being a virgin at 30. It just means that you haven't been ready for that type of intimacy yet. Sex is not something to be taken lightly, especially for the first time! When you have sex, you are sharing your most intimate parts of yourself with another human being.
Honestly? I would seek therapy, in order to work on your these issues that are affecting you. It's easy to overanalyze the act of sex to the point where you see it as something very primal. It actually is something primal, but it's also sensual, loving and beautiful (with someone you care about). I think some cognitive and behavioral therapy will help in regard to the way you view sex, as well as the other issues that plague you. You are still young and obviously value yourself enough to not give your body away to just anyone.
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk