Quote:
Originally Posted by hankster
I think because i am such a pollyanna, so afraid to say anything negative to my t, that he will jump on even the slightest hint of disparagement from me, like its a freudian slip or something. Im always, oh no everything is fine  its too scary to say negative stuff. With teasing you can always say "oh i didnt mean it". But did you? Sorry for the hijack - this is obviously a big issue for me. Thanks for the discussion jane  |
I get it Hankster. Teasing is a huge thing with the stbx and his family. Words mean nothing to him. It's always 'oh, I didn't mean it'.
I do tease my T (and him me
), but it's different. It's balanced out with honest communication. It's healthy teasing, and helps to lighten things when needed.
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk