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Originally Posted by hvert
Lots of interesting stuff in this thread! I still have no idea. It's not something I actively think about - I prefer to avoid it, I guess.
The biological clock I feel is less about 'omg, I want a baby' and more like 'omg, it's now or never. Am I *sure* I don't want kids?'
And why does it seem like I would be more likely to say yes if I thought he wanted kids because he loved kids? As it is, I think he is interested in the legacy, not the kids. That just seems like a bad reason... but is it really any worse than having a kid 'accidentally'?
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I was mid 20s when I had mine and tbh I didn't think it through, I more 'felt' it - my sister had a lovely little girl and we both (me and my husband) enjoyed spending time with her. She was possibly the catalyst, although another factor was my husband had been very ill and recovered against the odds - we were very much 'carpe diem'.
I remember watching my husband with our niece and knowing he would be a good father, and also loving him so much I knew I wanted my baby to look like him. It was definitely a strong feeling in many ways, a decision of the heart rather than the head.