During the first six months or so, mine asked on a regular basis. She didn't seem to be fishing for feedback on her skill, but more wanted to know if our relationship was 'working' for me. She particularly wanted to know negative stuff. The good thing about this was that over time, I was eventually able to tell her if I was having a problem with anything. She stressed that it was very important that she could 'trust me' to not hide any problems I was having with her or therapy. I'll never forget when she had again stressed the importance of me telling her if there was a problem, and then said "I expect there to be problems from time to time, and if you will tell me, then we can work it out together." It was really a genius thing to do. I got very comfortable telling her about things that bothered me about her or therapy, and I learned a ton of stuff from the whole thing of "working it out together."
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