See a medical doctor to see if you have some physical condition that may make you climax before joining. Seeing a therapist can help sort out any emotional baggage that we may carry with us that makes this happen.

Another way is to explore intimacy and make that the focus and not sexuality. Intimacy can be achieved no matter what the sex organs do or not do.
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