For me itīs a shame even if not all people think of it as a shame. I wish I didnīt feel ashamed but I do. You only have to look upon statistics to see that I belong to a minority when it comes to not having sex and not experienced a relationship and being over 30.
I was in therapy but got terminated and now I have to look for another T. Because I canīt pay for therapy myself Iīll have to turn to the public health care and I donīt think theyīll let me talk about issues around sexuality. They more of treat depression and major psychiatric diagnoses.
Iīm happy about the thing you mentioned, that I havenīt given myself to just anybody but I really wish I would have been able to find some kind of love earlier.
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Originally Posted by QuirkyGirl99
Listen, there is absolutely no shame in being a virgin at 30. It just means that you haven't been ready for that type of intimacy yet. Sex is not something to be taken lightly, especially for the first time! When you have sex, you are sharing your most intimate parts of yourself with another human being.
Honestly? I would seek therapy, in order to work on your these issues that are affecting you. It's easy to overanalyze the act of sex to the point where you see it as something very primal. It actually is something primal, but it's also sensual, loving and beautiful (with someone you care about). I think some cognitive and behavioral therapy will help in regard to the way you view sex, as well as the other issues that plague you. You are still young and obviously value yourself enough to not give your body away to just anyone.
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