yes. it was drilled into me kind of very subconsciously somehow growing up. it was somehow my job to be quiet and do what everyone wanted at all times no matter how much it hurt me even it meant seeing others get physically hurt and not being allowed (again a subconscious message) to tell (except adults outside the home did know to a degree what was going on).

but my whole life that is how it was for me which is an issue now as an adult because it also played a part in how some of my trauma/abuse took place, partly out of not knowing 'how' to speak up or get away and partly because part of me did not want to be bad, get in trouble, make them mad, make them hate me, etc. if i didn't do what they wanted me to.......and as an adult, that is still triggered for me which is partly why i cannot even attempt a relationship because i know that will be triggered..and i have worked so hard to avoid/manage some other aspects of people pleasing, setting boundaries with family who used to walk all over me and call me selfish when i finally started standing up to them and taking care of myself....but for some reason, there is still that part that can easily be triggered in certain situations (which are largely avoided now).....and that terrifies me knowing that if it is, the chances of getting away without harm...as much as i'd like to say are high....potentially are not...

but overall, i was supposed to do what anyone wanted at all times no matter what...i still have no idea where it came from..well..i do..but not 100%.