I made it to the end. I feel empathy for you. I am happily married and my husband knows me well. He is an unemotional man and doesn't show feelings very often at all. But I am not effusive either. So we suit each other well. There were times, some recent, in our almost 12 year marriage, where I felt sorely lacking in affection and attention from him. Things had to come to a head before we even spoke about that. It got better for a time, then went back to "normal". Now I have given up drinking and he is more affectionate than ever.

I don't even know what to suggest to you as your husband seems so emotionally unavailable to you. I can understand how lonely that must be.

I just want you to know that I listened and that I care. Please write as much as you want in order to vent and maybe feel less alone.