Being a B is okay. If that's what you need to do, if it's exercising something in you that helps work out your inherent relationship with the attribute of people pleasing. It's certainly possible or likely that the pendulum will swing the other way again at some point, and maybe land at a midpoint you're happier with; either way, you're learning from the journey, and not accepting the status quo, which is good. For me it's been a lifelong affair, dealing with that aspect of myself.

My parents were very needy, the kind that have children just to fill the void, for their own, er, ..entertainment. Dr. Phil has a phrase for this which I like: "born with a job", and we should not be! Besides being just plain wrong, it's very hard to undo the messages that it sends, that someone's very existence is just to please you. Doozy.

I used to beat up on myself for being too much of a people pleaser (and ironically, my parents did too -- when it came to how I behaved with any other people in my life), but as I was groomed to be that way, I don't exactly think of it as "my" attribute or failing. I take responsibility for working on it, but not for having it.

Although I can't entirely escape the destiny of that training, I do think I'm more aware of it in the moment these days, and manage to (mostly) channel it into more worthy affairs, i.e. people please more exclusively those who actually appreciate it, so that I don't feel the doormat. I try not to engage much with people who seem to have an especial proclivity for taking advantage of that aspect of my conditioning, or programming as you call it, and there are certainly those who instinctively recognize the attribute. There's also a way some people have that's worth watching out for, of applying a kind of see-what-I-can-get behavior with everyone they encounter, and then seeing who bites. (I know people like this at work. If I get a new assistant they immediately start schmoozing with them on the sly and trying to get them to do work for them as well. New person being in the process of getting oriented, especially might get confused, about knowing whether maybe they're supposed to help them out too, and thinks maybe it's just easier to do the tasks rather than ask a question that might make them look disinclined to work itself. Erg.)

I'll never be immune, but I'm less easily triggered to people-please as a knee-jerk reaction, which is good as I'd much rather my kindnesses be the result of my own inspiration!