hi RI1442
i wouldnt be so quick to rule out dbt as something for kids with "serious issues like self harm/bpd" it sounds like your issue is pretty serious as well as much as it is negatively impacting your life. i do not have bpd but took dbt for my anxiety issues and it was the best thing i ever did. dbt focus is about learning how to manage your emotions, one is not being able to manage anxiety.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome