hi marty
getting him help and supports in place as soon as possible is what is important. he could get a 504 at school (IEP) which would put the necessary supports in place to make sure he is successful. making sure his parents are as educated as possible about treatment options, lifestyle, diet, discipline methods, etc so that he can live a structured life.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome