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Originally Posted by lizardlady
I am in no way trying to minimize your hurt over friends not responding to you, but I would like to give a different perspective.
I have a friend who will call and leave me a voicemail with a message like "Tried to reach you. Will try again." I am supposed to read her mind and know that she's hurting and needs to talk. I'm not psychic. I can't know she is struggling unless she gives me some indication. I might not return the call immediately depending on what's going on in my life.
Then there are the times that I'm struggling to deal with my own stuff and I just don't have anything to give someone else. I have a tendency to pull into my shell when I'm really stressed. It takes too much energy to interact with other people. I may not have it in me to help someone else at those times.
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You're probably right. I never mention that I'm hurt or lonely because I dislike talking about my feelings and I hate showing weakness. I simply start conversations with my friends when I'm like that without saying anything and I usually feel better if they respond.
I think that I'm just going to keep my friends at a distance until I get myself financially stable with my online business. Once I pay off my debt and get my seller accounts more established, I have a solid shot at making well over $4-5k per month with chances to scale it even further.
Once that happens they will be flocking to me. I will be making more money than most people my age without a college degree no doubt. I will be completely self made and people will see that, therefore, I will be worthy of respect finally. People will need me for once and it will be glorious!
I need to keep focus and keep my priorities in order and avoid emotional attachments for a bit longer.