Thanks for interesting perspectives. I can feel ashamed just by being a virgin and knowing that people around me most surely are not as most of the adult population have had sex. But I donīt feel the actual act would be more humiliating to me just because Iīm a virgin.
Yes, thatīs correct, I imagine or see sex partly as someone "taking over me" and using me even if thereīs no actual violence at all involved. I would really want to know why? Do you have any clue to this aspect?
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Originally Posted by Bill3
Yes I do see a difference between the two views. If it were about being a virgin, there could be significant social aspects to the humiliation--you could see yourself as one of a very few virgins, you could feel humiliated because you see yourself as behind others, looked down upon, left out.
What I think you are saying, though, is that there really is not a major social dimension to your feelings of humiliation. You find sex itself to amount to someone using your body for his own purposes, to relieve and gratify himself. And so you find sex itself to seem violating. You could give a man full permission, but it sounds like sex would feel like a violation nonetheless.
How well and how accurately does what I just said resonate with you?
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