i know it can be really challenging, but you are not mother to the world. you need to think about mothering yourself and setting boundaries with others. it is not your job to take care of the neighbors child. let them know to keep their child at home. you are not your husband's mother. he is old enough to take care of himself. he can set an alarm and wake himself up and is too old to be having slumber parties and friends you have to care for as well. focus on you and your child. set boundaries on how late people can be in your home based on your anxiety level. your body tells you what you can handle. listen to it and build your life to care for you.