There are a lot of men here with problems the inability to love unconditionally. I also want to say make sure your mentally well so that your problems don't become his problems. Yes, it is okay to have things that stress you out, we all have those things no matter how much forgiveness happens that we just don't want to happen again in our life. It is great when two people can love each other unconditionally and compromise on certain things. Keep trying to find that perfect one. Decide what you can't deal with, what is a huge deal breaker. Don't beat yourself up, just know that it was the other person not you. Try not to bring that baggage to next relationship, try not too. It isn't fair for the next guy or therapist that tries to help once all is forgiven. Nothing last forever and I wish people would see that!