It seems like you are looking for a real emotional connection before dipping into the sexual world as a virgin- which is fine! There are two things that you could do: Go for it with this guy sexually but be possibly left with hurt feelings (losing your virginity as a "FWB") OR (and this may be the better choice, considering your hesitation) you should search around and talk to some more guys that are more willing to maybe go on a date or hang out with you first before going the sexual route. Hope everything goes well