RF! I'm really angry that you were subjected to this man's words....The story of no money to get diapers or children's underwear...the Christmas tree, the belittling in private, treating you like a possession in public, not to mention physical abuse. I'm so sorry you had to experience this.
Denial...maybe, but it sounds like stating this bald faced lie to the victim of his behavior (you), he is trying to validate himself. Such people are completely oblivious.
You remained silent, but I can visualize myself having a fit...letting him know exactly who and what he is!
Patty