Some of what you are worrying about is very normal. Planning when the right time is to have a child...making sure you can afford to raise a child. I commend you on your thoughts there. Maybe talking with a financial planner might help your stress level a bit. They can help you plan for such things.

I know folks mean well when they tell you "their" perceptions of how many kids you should have. Remember, they don't have to live your life...YOU do. However many children you and your husband want is YOUR business and no one elses. There is no reason to believe that having only one child is worse than having 2 or more. As long as the child is loved and cared for in the best way you possibly can, then that is all that matters.

The fact that you think about things and care enough to think about them will make you a good mother. The fact that you would love your child regardless of your issues and give that child the best you can will prove how good of a mother you will be. Remember that no one is perfect and we can only do the best we can at any given time.

Good luck with your thoughts and ideas. I hope some answers come to you soon that you are comfortable with!

Hugsss
J