My t did this for the first time in 2 years. I could rationally see where she was coming from and what she meant in her comment, but I was left feeling hurt and misunderstood. We talked it over in the next session and, even though it was hard and I cried a little, she handled it well. She didn't apologise, which I respect, but acknowledged the affect it had on me and cleared up the misunderstanding. I feel that in exploring what she said and meant and examining my response to it was very useful. The whole experience was actually beneficial, despite the hurt I initially felt.

Have you experienced a small rupture like this? How did you and your t respond to it? What was the outcome and how did you feel about it?