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Originally Posted by rr13
Well, my brother has been the cause of my parents ignoring me and my emotional and financial needs since I was a child and into adulthood. I still need financial help from my parents, but since they've had to literally support my brother financially for the past 30 years, they haven't been there for me like I need them to be. So I guess I feel resentful towards my brother because I've had to struggle most of my life and feel like I have no family at all.
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You cannot change the situation, your brother or your parents. All you can do is do what you need to do for yourself and not focus on all that. You say you need financial help from your parents. What causes that? Do you believe that your parents actually want to be drained emotionally and financially by their son?
You keep referring to needing financial help from your parents but because they are doing so much for your brother, they aren't 'there' for you. Are your parents otherwise supportive, nurturing, and caring of you? That is all a parent really is expected to and should do for a child that is an adult and is otherwise able to care for themselves. If they aren't, then you need to work harder at getting yourself financially stable and be independent of them.
If they are "good parents" to you emotionally, they need you to be patient and supportive of them and the situation.
As for resenting your brother, I think you'll have to trust for the moment, that this round of support your parents are giving him, will be the catalyst for him to get on his own two feet better at least and that your parents themselves can be at peace as well.