I feel for you but I think as adults we can't really put too much hope into our parents helping us financially. They are obligated to raise us providing us with basics when we are kids but not beyond that. We can want them to help, and it's nice if they can but they don't really "need" to. Especially passed college age. I personally cannot financially help my adult daughter at this point even if I wanted to. It doesn't effect our relationship.

If your brother is dealing with aftermath of stroke and is incapacitated they kind of in a position of having to take him in. Somebody has to. Even if it is caused by his reckless behavior or drugs it's still illness

I know it's a tough situation but all you can do now is try to get into a better place financially so you don't need their help. They are probably older and might in fact need your help soon. Are they still working?retired?

I know you said they are emotionally abusive (so is my dad so I can relate) but you can't say they aren't there for you if they do help you financially. It's more than most parents of adult kids do.

My t says we can't change our parents, we kind of have to accept who they are and move on with our lives and if it is toxic you can limit interactions with them. But you kind of can't as they help you. I don't know if you should forgive whatever wrong doings they did in the past ( my t never said I had to forgive my dad just that i can't change him) but maybe it's helpful to feel some gratitude for what they do for you now

It might at least give you peace of mind

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