There has already been a lot of good advice given so what I am going to say is just repeating what they say. You deserve more, that is just the simple truth. You married him, you love him and now it seems like he is not holding up his end of the bargain and that sucks. I don't know what is going on with him but his not being willing to take any responsiblity makes things even more difficult. When you talked about him throwing the bottle and the you to the floor, that down right scared me. What ever is going on with him he needs to do soemthing about it. Unfortunately you can't make him. You can however do something for yourself. You can see a therapist to help you get a handle on this situation and help you decide what you want to do about it. Therapists are wonderful sounding boards and give excellent advice. You don't have to have a mental illness to get good use out of a therapist. Once you have sorted through your feelings about the situation you will be more able to make the decisions that need to be made. Oh and I was wondering what IBS is, just curious.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson