Pat,

I can relate to the horrible feelings you are having when a person who you trusted & cared about could do such a horrible thing to you, knowing quite well how much harm he was doing.

Your posts take me back to the feelings I had when I went through when my Mother was dying & the home care person who was supposed to be an RN & a good friend of my Mothers boyfriend pulled the ID theft with her ID & the abuse she did to her also.

When it is happening, we don't always see it happening, & after it has happened, it is so hard to put all the pieces together in our minds.....it just all seems so complicated.....& yes, being violated is a perfect description of the feelings you go through. Hurt that anyone could do something like that. On top of that, we wonder what else they might try in the future & are they done doing damage.....or how else do we need to protect ourselves against them.

It is like living through a bad dream, or like I felt, it was like watching a movie that keeps replaying in our minds, not knowing how the ending is because we are working on that part of the movie. Trying to figure out what our next move needs to be & who all we need to report it to....but then, we need to put the pieces together so we can tell them what happened too......when even we aren't sure of all the details while we are putting it all together in our own minds.

I hope they are able to prosecute this person...& nail him good for what he did. Sometimes the bank will get your money back in cases like this since it was all done on a bank card.....but the stress of it all even if you get your money back is a horrible thing to even have to live through.

I wish I could be in a more helpful position.....I will try to help as much as I can......if you want to PM me......I will be glad to listen....sometimes it is good to have a place just to put down your feelings & have someone who has gone through similar experiences be there to listen.

Tears are ok.....anyway to let out those hurt emotions is a good thing....
Take care,
Debbie