(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))

I think that this is one of The most confusing subjects ever..
For me I didn't have an answer until both of my parents passed. And then it took a very long time.. I finally felt that I couldn't hold onto my pain and anger any longer, if I wanted to move on with my life,,, to once again open my heart.

I wish I could have done this while they were alive... but Only for Me.. it was Me that deserved better. And for me that was the key.. my parents didn't deserve me.. the wonderful me that continued to love them thru the abuse.. and the looking the other way..

I am so sorry that this post won't help you.. but just felt the need to say it...

Sincerely,
freewill