yes hon I know what you mean. I have been there myself. I think for me what works is I don't read every post. if it is something I feel will trigger me I move on to something else. while I try to be supportive, I also realize I have to come first. I don't think there is a person here that doesn't feel this way at times. We can't always help and that is ok too. I am very proud that you are handling things well in a tough situation/s. I think it takes a strong person to remain sober during rough times! I applaud you! I don't always make alot of sense in my post either lol hang in there hon!