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Back when I attended Al-Anon meetings I struggled with the concept of Let Go and Let God, mainly because I'm not a religious person. I couldn't figure out how to turn something over to something I didn't believe in.
While in therapy I learned that the only thing I have any control over is myself. I guess when I learned to stop trying to control things I had no control over that was what "Let Go and Let God" means.
Hard as it may be to accept you are doing your son no favors by bailing him out of his problems. Like someone else said, if he wants to move to CO, let him figure out how to do it. This next one is likely to be really hard - don't bail him out financially. Your son sounds a lot like my husband used to be. I actually went to his father and begged him to stop bailing hubby out of financial problems. His parents enabled him to never have to grow up emotionally because they "saved" him every time he screwed up.
Someone else also suggested focusing on taking care of yourself. Sounds like good advice.
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