I can relate to doing what others offer will help. I do what people tell me and am disappointed over and over and over again when It doesn't work. Then I feel like maybe I didn't try hard enough, when I'd actually pushed myself beyond limits.

I take on the words of other people "it's not that bad, others have it worse, first world problems, try reading a book, why don't you just smile, you don't do enough exercise, you're just weak and being a whinger"

I think people can do a lot more damage with their words than help