Yeah, ex T has.

I said twice that I felt my family is dysfunctional, and both times, she said she disagreed and explicitly said "I don't think your family is dysfunctional."

I found it confusing and somewhat hurtful because she was also telling me that my family was physically abusive and emotionally neglectful.

I also told her how my siblings and I fought a lot, and that my parents allowed my older brother to beat us, as well as a couple of common place stories about parental rage which she felt was "horrible" (her word choice).

She said the words "abuse and neglect" - I even argued with her how I didn't have it "that bad" - and she said my family was abusive by "community and professional standards" in our country.

And yet, to her, my family isn't dysfunctional? [emoji55]

It's abusive, but not dysfunctional?

At our last session, before she went on maternity leave and transferred me to current T, I told her I felt angry and invalidated that she had told me "No, your family isn't dysfunctional."

She said she was sorry that I felt invalidated, and said she didn't even remember ever saying "your family isn't dysfunctional.".

Oh well.