I remain unconvinced.

But I think there are still things you can do. I truly believe sitting down and talking with one or more of your family members is the key. Just one (difficult) conversation with my own brother changed the family dynamics after 45 years of grief and feeling disrespected, unloved, and unfairly treated. Maybe if you were to ask your parents how you might help? That may be the cause for change in your own family.

I don't think you can expect your parents, and brother, to come to their senses and change. I think you need to be part of that change - as difficult as it sounds, as sickening as that sounds.

Incidentally, I actually myself have recieved the occasional financial assistance from my father. I do not expect it though and manage myself on the limited income assistance provides me. I DO understand that $$ can be equated with love, or in my case to make up for past wrongs. But, I manage things according to NOT expecting these occasional gifts and I make my own efforts to try to maintain positive contact despite the pain previously caused me.