I was in group the other day and a leader state that forgiveness isn't something that you should do necessarily! I thought that was a wrong thing to say in group of survivors as the leader! Well in that case I don't have to feel guilt, shame, etc. I just didn't think it made sense to me. If she had her reasoning for stating that as a leader she should have went into more details. She should have said, I don't want to forgive my rapist because I don't want him around my children because I don't feel like he has been in therapy to help himself/herself to see his issues. I know I seen it first hand for those in situations that are dangerous either by choice or no choice. Forgiveness is for yourself anyway.