I think Little Lulu captured what I'm worried about - this feels invasive - and, yeah, it's too easy to come off like I am saying she needs to change or apologize for apologizing!

I don't see her being berated - I just know that the group she works for is abusive to everyone and her behavior strikes me as that of a person who has been beaten into submission. The stuff she is apologizing for with me really makes no sense. If I ask if it's raining, she'll apologize for not telling me already, even though it's not her job to tell me and she has no way of knowing that I need to know until I ask, that kind of thing. It's not passive aggressive, either.