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crosstobear · Sep 16, 2015, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Komfortable

You guys (and girls? idek) are great. I haven't tried Tinder yet...but I've been on Bumble, and I like it. It is very much like Tinder, except that the girls have to initiate conversation after a match, so it's a bit less creepy. Not a lot to report there, though.

Never been one for hookups, so this is foreign territory for me. My "number" is small, on purpose. It annoys my friends, and they are determined to "get me to double-digits" as quickly as possible. It's amusing to listen to them make plans for me without my input.

In the mean time, I'll do my best to keep my mind off of Emily and on something more productive.

Tinder isn't only for hook-ups, though. I met and went on many dates with many women who were looking for a relationship.

I actually want to make you aware of something that I think can help you. You said its creepy for a man to initiate after a match... well, guess what, bucko? Men have to initiate everything courtship-wise. Women are taught to be modest. And biologically, women have a limited number of eggs while men have unlimited sperm. Women are the choosers, men are the pursuers. 3 or 4 men can indicate interest in a woman, and must make the move and court her. In their courting, the woman chooses the best fit for her. If you think it's creepy to initiate a text convo on a dating app as a guy, how do you do it IRL? Do away with all this "creepy" nonsense. You're not a direwolf with an engorged **** just looking for fresh meat. You're a dude, and dudes do what dudes do. Which is initiating with women. No woman of good substance in between 20-30 will initiate with a guy, in my experience. A woman who looks good and has a good personality and lots going for her has ZERO incentive to pursue or initiate with a man. When a woman does the initiating, it tells you a few things about her that you ought to pay attention to.

In short: Men almost ALWAYS pursue and initiate. It's not creepy. And if some immature girl says it is, laugh and move on. She wouldn't call Brad Pitt creepy. You're just not her Brad Pitt. Meaning you're only "creepy" if she's not attracted to you. And that you brush off... and move on to the next one.