Thank you for replying and sharing that it means a lot i understand where you are coming from, i find i hate doing things i don't know how to do if that makes sense?

Anything i'm not fully sure of i will delay it or maybe never even attempt to do it. I feel for you it must be a nightmare, i don't know if this is a suitable idea or not but would you be able to call a cleaner/maid? That way someone else is taking care of the chores leaving you to carry on without stress. Maybe therapy or coaching may help too, i have anxiety pretty bad i had panic attacks going out my house but i worked on it and confronted it head on, thought of ways to handle it when it gets too much and put routines in place to be able to have certainty.

Maybe if you get used to doing them on a saturday or sunday it might be easier even if you just put some dishes in a sink its a huge improvement.

I really feel for you thank you for sharing that

Claire