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Originally Posted by SkyscraperMeow
What's the big problem with wanting a mother figure? I am sure there are many ways to meet and spend time with older women in productive and friendly fashions. Why not just accept the need for what it is?
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I can't speak for the OP, but for me it was unhealthy - yes, these women met that need, but I got clingy, needy, possessive of them, just like a small child with its mother. I'd obsess about them. I would lose my identity in them and restructure myself to please them or get their approval. I think the OP has some concern or she wouldn't have posted.
Call it transference with a non-therapist. And transference with a therapist can be dangerous enough (to me, anyway - others' mileage will vary).