You would think that others are interested in platonic friendships but I have not experienced that. You have to bring other things to the table to be someone who others desire as a friend. I don't seem to have those desired qualities - looks, fabulousness, money, partying ways, etc. I don't fit into either straight or gay circles. I'm too intellectual and introverted.

I joined a gay church group. Thought it would be a safe place. I have major spiritual issues that I wanted to focus on. Shockingly, people started hitting on me. I just wanted to be friends and so did they but our definitions were different. They slept with their friends; I did not want to get intimate with friends. Even one of the priests told me that I would be happier if I had sex. I was not there for sex. I was there for spiritual healing. At another church, I did not find acceptance at all. In fact, I thought the people were mean. It has been one disappointing experience after another. I am not so naive anymore that people merely want to be platonic friends.