Sweet, I think you areyoung enough to be my daughter. I too am a feminist. However, I am a mother and I have very deep instincts to protect and nuture. My mother tortured and abused. My father was a drunk who didn't have any responsibility for the 9 of us. He kept a job until retirement is all. I do not feel sorry for my mother, she made her choices. She was poor and having to figure out how to feed us but she was selfish and horrible. He at least could be more gentle. But as a grown up I see him as just as wrong as her because he allowed it. He never fought her and became her ambassader for inflicting torture. I hold her more responsible. She carried me for nine months, I cringe at the thought of being so near that woman, and she never cherished or protected me. All he did was spill seed.