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Old Sep 17, 2015, 06:23 AM
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Originally Posted by SkyscraperMeow View Post
I'm sorry you feel so bad. Unfortunately, the world is full of less than awesome people doing less than awesome things. That doesn't preclude some more than awesome people from existing though.

It's an unfortunate reality that T's will occasionally say silly things, and perhaps even give you bad advice. I find being generally surly tends to keep people from hitting on me. Have you tried being generally surly?

I guess the thing is that people who 'succeed' in any sense in life either do so because a) they get lucky early on and stick with what they get or b) they keep trying.

I can't tell you that people won't suck, don't suck or will never hit on you again. But I can tell you that if you give up altogether, it's a self fulfilling prophecy that things won't get better.

People have fallen in love with the Eiffel Tower and the Berlin Wall. People fall in love with serial killers. There's almost nothing and no-one who is actually unloveable. There are people who have taken themselves out of circulation though, and therefore can't find love, platonic or otherwise because nobody knows they're there.

Also, the fact that people hit on you seems to suggest that people find you attractive and interesting , so that's a start right? Even if you don't want to be in a sexual relationship, people still want you and consider you likeable enough to approach.

I don't know, it sort of seems like you're insisting on interpreting everything in a negative fashion. Nobody wants you, but people won't stop hitting on you. See the contradiction there?

There are lots of intellectual introverts out there. Lots and lots. A great many. Millions, probably. Odds are you could meet and strike up a friendship with one of them.
1. I am not and do not wish to be a surly person.

2. The people who hit on me are looking for sex - not friendship and not love. I have never liked sleeping with strangers I barely know in order to get to know them better. Lately, I've decided to stand my ground. It's not what I want and I'm not going to make the mistake of doing it any more. For me, it does not work.

3. I did not choose to be gay. I don't like being gay. I don't fit in the gay community - my values are different. I don't fit in the straight community. I don't enjoy gay sex. Never did. The problem with being gay is an issue that I am unable to deal with. It is not a life that I want.

4. I was raised to be an asexual caretaker. That's what I became. That's what I am even though the caretaking duties have ended. I grew up denied of affection. As an adult, to me intimacy is a strange world that I don't understand or enjoy. T's try to nurture me but I am no longer a child and they are not my parents. It's a dynamic that is resented and ineffective yet they keep trying and wasting my time. I grew up isolated with no toys or playmates - my parents' believing that I should be raised as an adult from the start because childhood was not necessary. Their experiment has been a disaster for my life. T's can't seem to treat it nor grasp the magnitude of the problem.
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