... unguy ...

All I can say is that when I read your post(s), I can utterly relate on so many levels and it hurts my heart to see you hurting this way, and I wish I knew how to fix it for those of us who don't really fit into any of the narrow, prescribed boxes that this big old world likes to try to neatly package everybody into.

We're among those who are indefinable and that scares the hell out of most folks because they simply don't know what to do with a person, place or thing that can't be neatly categorized and placed into a compartment for "safe keeping".

They are so desperately trying to maintain their own levels of comfort that they fail to comprehend how badly they are wounding others with their oft inappropriate and misplaced comments and behaviors!

I'm not making excuses for them! There are no excuses! Especially for a "trained professional"! And, for those of us who were already bullied, rejected and deeply wounded by our families of origin, the hurt we feel is magnified thousands of times more each and every time we get hurt in the same manner again!