That you need your parents support is inarguable. I have neglected to ask if you have in fact been cut off financially.. I realise just how anxious and sickening the worry over finances can be; how that worry can consume one's entire life. You have my understanding there.

But this goes far deeper than that. The money issue you may see as the problem but there is more I think at the heart of it. It sounds to me like that is what the counsellor is trying to tackle. I myself would like to see you treat this as at least two seperate problems - issues which need to be dealt with individually. Try to remove the money from the equation. What is wrong there? What do you expect from your family and what can you do in turn. Similarly then consider the money issue. What do you expect from your family and what can you do in return.

I can only imagine the fear you have regarding the money and the resentment you have regarding your brother. By the way, I don't think it is necessarily you who should be the one doing the forgiving. But sometimes it takes a gentle good offering on our part to make the change we want to see.