I'm so sorry, ifonlyyouknewme. It sounds like you are terribly neglected, and that must feel so lonely. I'm sorry your husband does not seem to realize the pain he's causing you. I'm sure you've told him just how much it hurts.

My relationship with my ex-husband was like this. Nothing changed because it worked for him. I'm not suggesting it won't change in your relationship, just that I can identify and I understand how painful and lonely it can feel.