No they dont have to be.. I just recall even since i was young, of course had female friends but also boys were my friens. I then had a very good friend who was a boy when i was dating my Ex-H and really liked that he aws around when my BF wasn't. Once my BF and i got serious, that friend fell away, which always made me super sad b/c we shared a really fun silly friendship! I had a few other guy friends still in high school... and then again, in RL they fell away or were even skeptical of my BF and perhaps they had a reason to be so! (we were so not meant to be...)

I feel like- it would be so nice to have another light guy friend around. Girls are ok of course, but i am surrounded by women in my family, and for some reason i tend to get along with guys if not abit better. Sometimes being in a RL makes me kind of resentful that this freedom is taken away from me.

I even placed an ad for a 'gay guy friend' lol. a few years ago. i just felt like i needed someone cool around who didn't want to 'get in my pants'

I told my BF last night, that perhaps i want to hang w/ this male friend. This male friend and I have been texting, he is going away and offered to buy both my BF and I a little gift/ souvenir. I found it cool. They are both not from the US... where cultures are so differnt it seems.

I had a best friend who was a girl- that completely fell apart and exploded with huge drama, and honestly it turned me off from her. Now, i feel bad b/c we were good friends. We still stay in touch she is expecting baby #3. She is super cool still... i miss her but for some reason we dont connect very easily now. Plus- i met her when i was still married to my Ex. She was there for me during our divorce, but that is also the time i told her i was bi-sexual, and we had a huge misunderstanding after.

I find it is really hard to find female (or male) friends now in my 30s .... since i am not married with kids, and it seems my sister and friends with kids have built in opportunities and rub elbows with others that have things in common. :/

I feel that almost every female friendship was very hot and cold, ending in some bad falling out. With guys- i just dont find that happens as much! Idk....

Perhaps it is all the more reason for me to attend a support group. If nothing else, some socializing outside of my circle..

Believe me- i am a loner and introvert about 80% of the time, so im totally OK with not having a millino friends. I find i have a lot of friends lingering the the background, but i am more choosy as to who i spend my time with since my diag and treatment.