At some point we have to accept that our parents are who they are and we can't change them. My family does a lot of pretending too and I can't share with them either. Mine are in a fantasy world too. I can't worry or think about it too much though as I have to live my life.

You don't need to forgive but being angry and preoccupied with your parents and their lives might be detrimental to your well being. As adults you might need to move on with our lives. Unfortunately many People have horrible families yet life has to go on. That's why therapy might be helpful. It helped me.

I believe you can stop being angry without forgiving. I think One option is accepting reality and focusing on your own life.

Can you follow bankruptcy? My BF had to file. He is fine now and is back on his feet. I want to avoid bankruptcy so I work two jobs. Talk to a financial adviser about your options. Is any of the debt students loan? That's the only debt you must pay no matter what, the rest could be gone

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