Hallo,
I'm single, but recently I was at my friends house, she has a daughter and son. Occasionally I notice some sexual impulses in her kids behavior. For example, her daughter (13) was rubbing her pelvis against my friends brother thigh (through some kind of play) and she felt (not orgasm, of course) some kind of body release. Also sometimes I saw my friends son (10) rubbing his pelvis against her mother, during cuddling with her (you know, "mother-son love sparkles").
That family is more 'relaxed' that the one I grew up. I remember that I was so shamed by my parents about sexuality that while all my friends were making sex jokes, I was like 'shame on you' attitude, or 'I'm not interested in sexual things, that's primitive'. One day I only opened my eyes for this subject and acknowledged that was a part of me. Pretty late I lost my virginity. Still I carry a lot of shame from my childhood.
Cause of this, I remembered my childhood and how my older sister was jealous about my Oedipus complex (I never asked her where she heard about it) and it was true.
What I wanted to ask was, since I would like one day, maybe soon, to be a parent, how do you guide these childish sexual behavior and impulses? When I mention something to those kids of my friend something about girlfriend/boyfriend stuff, they are ashamed and they kind of avoid to talk about that subject, they are ashamed of it. Obviously and of course their bodies aren't mature enough for this, but those impulses of their bodies are there.
So, how do you guide this?