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Old Sep 17, 2015, 02:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick View Post
A good T should not say those things to there client no matter how they feel. I am so sorry your T said those things to you. That is not a healthy relationship between therapist and client. I would be switching T's if I were you. The LAST thing a T should be doing is making you feel bad.
I agree, a T shouldn't make it about them. If they're having trouble dealing with a client, they should talk to colleagues (or a supervisor, if they have one) about it, not to the client. I've apologized to my T for things like seeming to prefer my marriage counselor to her or for making her feel bad if I wasn't making progress, and she's always said it's not about her, that I don't have to worry about her feelings. MC has said similar things, too, if I express concerns about bothering him, etc.

Also, it's up to the T to hold the boundaries, not the client. That shouldn't be on you.
Thanks for this!
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