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Originally Posted by I'm Worth It
Fear of Intimacy -- For a person who struggles with this it is spelled -- Into Me See. A person who struggles with this, they do not want to allow anyone to get close enough to see them the way they see themselves.
This is usually rooted in childhood attachment deficiencies with parents or trusted member of the family. The self-esteem has been damaged as well. Oftentimes, if a child hasn't received the level of care and/or attention required from a parent, the child feels insecure and inadequate and as time goes by has a very negative self view of themselves. That coupled with other life experiences that may have compounded that feeling.
Nine times out of 10, the person's negative view of themselves is not related to anything they've done. In other words, they aren't as bad or undeserving as they make themselves out to be.
It is something that should be explored with a therapist and can be overcome with time once the sources and causes are clearly identified and dealt with.
There are other factors that can contribute to this as well and everyone is different and their experiences. It's worth the effort though.
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A simple fear of intimacy? You can go over my previous post if you'd like, I have had strain with a trusted family member regarding mental/emotional stuff. However, that didn't start until adolescence, whereas my FoI symptoms have been present since I was old enough to go to school. That's what I wonder about. Otherwise it does sound probable.
I will be honest, with all the self-examination I do, I see myself absolutely horribly. And yes, there is a fear that people are going to "realize" what I'm actually like on some level, even, now, if it's just seeing how empty and blank I am. And I've long had baseless, irrational shame about my preferences and ideas.