I am not referring to situations like that. I am referring to the fact that even when men and women are both working full time, if the kids needs don't get met, it gets blamed on the mother as if she was just home all day and doing nothing- when in reality both parents are working, so both need to contribute and therefore it is the fault of BOTH parents when a kid is neglected. But this is not generally taken into account. It is generally put on the mom with NO consideration of the father's role.

I am NOT referring to abuse. I am referring only to neglect.

I am not trying to minimize the fact that mothers abuse. I feel like my point has not been taken.

I'm sorry for everyone who was abused and neglected by their mother. All I am saying is that neglect gets pinned on the mother sometimes when the blame should lie with both parents. THAT is what this thread is about.

Sorry if I invalidated someone's feelings