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Originally Posted by AuroraBorealis75
My therapist is pretty much the only person who hugs me, and now I am only seeing her once every 2 weeks. I crave those hugs, but it's not enough. I am running on a huge emotional deficit, and I need more people in my life that I can be real with besides my therapist. I need more people who can accept me, as broken and messed up and tearful and stressed as I am, people who can love me and nurture me. But I don't know how. I don't know where to find those people.
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It's such a painful feeling, I know. I agree with others' comments though. Your instincts are telling you what you need so it's good to find a way to make room in your life so you get your needs met.
You need to be compassionate and loving towards yourself first - stop telling yourself you don't have time or room for what you need. That's a bit like an adult telling a crying child there is no time for finding new friends or relationships or the nurturing the child needs because the busy-ness of life is too busy.
My own T once gave me some wise advice: "Give away to others the thing that you want or need for yourself".
Just find one small gap in your week where you can join something new and meet people who have an interest that you have. Then concentrate on being friendly and giving towards them. You'll find that what you give away will come back to you in time.
Sending you love and hugs
Take care.