There are some people that apologize for EVERYTHING. It sounds like what you mentioned, an issue of low-self esteem, like she doesn't feel she is worthy, or indeed been beaten into submission. I'd also try to get her outside of a work situation where she may confess or speak to her feelings and maybe you can both work something out. Watch out for YOU first, though.
Now, if she is the administrator that is OVER these bullies, how about her calling a little meeting and calling them on it. As valuable as she is, there are laws against harassment, or anything else that could fall into this category.
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Originally Posted by hvert
I think Little Lulu captured what I'm worried about - this feels invasive - and, yeah, it's too easy to come off like I am saying she needs to change or apologize for apologizing!
I don't see her being berated - I just know that the group she works for is abusive to everyone and her behavior strikes me as that of a person who has been beaten into submission. The stuff she is apologizing for with me really makes no sense. If I ask if it's raining, she'll apologize for not telling me already, even though it's not her job to tell me and she has no way of knowing that I need to know until I ask, that kind of thing. It's not passive aggressive, either.
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