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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
I had therapy yesterday. Even after a year and a half, I struggle to talk, especially in the beginning. Even if I have a thousand and one things to talk about, I struggle. My T has been quite good at getting me started on something, and then I can usually talk. But occasionally (like yesterday), we have a session where she brings my struggle up. She will remind me that we have all these topics we could be picking one and discussing, but that I can't seem to "stay engaged" in therapy. Sometimes I feel like she's scolding me, or frustrated with me that I don't take the initiative to start up topics I may want to talk about.
Does anyone else have this problem, and if so, how does your T handle it?
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Haha I thought I was reading a question written by me. I've been in therapy for for a year and even now I can't for the life of my talk about anything. I can't just walk in, have her ask me whats wrong, then just start talking about it. For me it's more of:
T: how was your week?
me: it was good
T: is there anything you would like to discuss?
me: No not really
T: *asks if I'm sure about 500 times*
me: Yes I'm sure!
This happens every week. Then she moves on to a topic that she thinks would be good to discuss. I even sent her an apology letter about not being able to talk and saying sorry for being so difficult because Im sure having a client sit there and barely speak is a bit annoying but she assures me that its normal and it takes time for some people. Luckily though she lets me email her so whenever something comes up that is really bad or causing a lot of anxiety I can send her an email and well talk about it in session. (2 months ago I was in a VERY bad place and because of that now were doing exposure therapy which is tough).
Overall, I would say that it's normal and your therapist shouldnt mind because I'm sure you arent the first or last client who is having a hard time speaking. Take it easy on yourself. you're doing great
