Thanks. Did you find your mother figure as youīve experienced the same or are you still looking?
I didnīt work on mother issues at all, nothing about feeling for my therapist as she was my mother. We talked about my own mother and that I donīt feel that emotionally close to her but we never entered into talking about my feelings for my therapist. I often told my T I appreciated her and what she did for me but I never spoke in terms of seeing her as a mother figure.
The cause for termination is a long story but basically it happened because my T couldnīt handle a couple of opinions I had on things that happened in therapy. She became defensive instead of trying to talk about it and I still donīt know if she thought of it as negative transference or if she just felt disappointed of herself and that she didnīt want the risk of hurting me again. Itīs the deepest sorrow Iīve ever had.
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Originally Posted by Bill3
I think you are looking for a mother figure because you didn't have the relationship that you needed when you were growing up. A void is there, and you have been trying to fill it. But you have not found someone who can fill the void.
Oh, I know such a feeling so well. I could never stand hugs from my mother. I just wanted to get away as soon as I could.
I think you said that you were with an older female T but therapy got terminated. How much did you work on mother issues with her? What brought about the termination?
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